Too many men are familiar with the tactic employed by their ex-wives or girlfriends when fighting for custody of their children: Strike first by accusing the man of sexual abuse or domestic violence. Many lawyers advise their female clients to make the accusations, even if they are blatantly false. Why? Because we are living in an age of believing the woman, no matter how dubious the claim may be. The accusation immediately puts the man on the defensive, often resulting in thousands of dollars in additional legal fees just trying to clear his name, even with his own lawyer.