While some single mothers will spout platitudes about how important fathers are in their children's lives, those same moms will often do everything they can to alienate their children from their dads. Moms' alienation techniques run the gamut; everything from outright lying to the kids about their father's vile behavior to claiming the child is too ill to get picked for dad's parenting time. Any man who has ever been involved in a parenting dispute with his kid's mother knows how the game is played.
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But what do experts have to say?
Despite mothers' claims that they know what is best for their children, when it comes to parenting, there is reason for doubt. According to a recent online article on Parenting Magazine's website, there are undisputed reasons why children benefit from a strong relationship with their fathers. Let's review a few of the most important ones here:
- Successful Starts: According to professional parenting studies, babies develop an early emotional security if their father is present in their lives early and often. Toddlers become more confident and pre-school children are better-socialized for group activities. Girls, in particular, who develop a great relationship with their dads do better all through their teen years in school and other social activities.
- Not Just Dad's Night Out: Major university studies show that a child actually benefits more from spending time in day-to-day activities with their fathers than attending major events. In other words, when moms complain that the kid's dad never does anything special during parenting time, it may be exactly what the child needs most...just hanging out, watching some TV and doing the dishes before bedtime.
- Risk-It's Not Just A Four-Letter Word: Mothers may hate the word "risk" in their kids' lives, but let's face it, success involves taking some risks and men excel at it. Fathers instill a sense of adventure in their activities and do a better job of making sure their kids -- including girls -- aren't afraid to try some new activities that stretch out their lives a little.
There's more, but these are the key reply points you can use next time you hear your kid's mother complain about the way you choose to spend your time as a parent. After all, you're not trying to be their mother. You're trying to be their dad.