Too many men are familiar with the tactic employed by their ex-wives or girlfriends when fighting for custody of their children: Strike first by accusing the man of sexual abuse or domestic violence. Many lawyers advise their female clients to make the accusations, even if they are blatantly false. Why? Because we are living in an age of believing the woman, no matter how dubious the claim may be. The accusation immediately puts the man on the defensive, often resulting in thousands of dollars in additional legal fees just trying to clear his name, even with his own lawyer.
In the #MeToo era, when claims of rape and sexual assault fly fast and furious, it’s important to remember that some of the claims are false. As we consider whether to believe claims of assault – whether they’re against a Supreme Court nominee or your next-door neighbor – some facts help put the claims in perspective.
Actress Eliza Dushku has alleged she was the subject of inappropriate comments on the set of the CBS show “Bull” and that after she complained, she was written off the show and deprived of a four-season arc she had been promised.
Google the phrase “false accusations” and thousands of pages will come up, most of them informing us that falsely accusing a man of sexual assault or abuse is a rare occurrence. The handful of articles that do admit it sometimes happens almost always point to the accusers’ history of being mentally disturbed.
Following the Brett Kavanaugh Supreme Court confirmation debacle, the Internet blew up with stories about how unlikely it is that teenage girls and women would ever falsely accuse a man of sexual assault or misconduct. As the current narratives go, we are supposed to believe that women have too much at stake or that no woman would put themselves through public scrutiny they would be subjected to.
Over the past several weeks, much has been made in the national media about sexual assault and false accusations. Anyone who has been awake knows what the issues are regarding Brett Kavanaugh's Supreme Court nomination hearings and the circus that preceded it. We won't take time to review the details here. We think it is more important to discuss the very clear and present danger to a man's career and well-being in society when forced to defend himself against women claiming sexual misconduct at any point in his past.
While some single mothers will spout platitudes about how important fathers are in their children's lives, those same moms will often do everything they can to alienate their children from their dads. Moms' alienation techniques run the gamut; everything from outright lying to the kids about their father's vile behavior to claiming the child is too ill to get picked for dad's parenting time. Any man who has ever been involved in a parenting dispute with his kid's mother knows how the game is played.
We’ve all heard people say that the courts in Alabama and across the United States are starting to treat men better in court. Dubious claim. Well, even if the courts are under pressure to change a little, ex-wives aren’t likely to any time soon.
It's an old myth that women are the nurturing ones whose priority is to care for the children and men are focused solely on their careers, with child-rearing taking a back seat. Many modern dads cherish their parenting role above anything else.
We often hear women complain about deadbeat fathers. When men try to stand up to the verbal attacks, they are often shut down with complaints about not accepting economic reality.